Can someone just b*tch slap me? I am totally falling head-over-hills for a guy who just thinks of me as a friend. Why can’t I just find a nice guy who doesn’t see me as just a friend? I guess it is my fault since I am his co-worker (yeah, I am an idiot) and I don’t want to start anything with a co-worker so I gave off friend vibes. I even tried setting him up with one of my friends because I didn’t really know him yet and I figured he was looking for a nice girl. Little did I know that her attention was a fair weather friend. Now, as I got to know him, I am falling deeper. It makes me feel so insane! I know that he is back with his ex and he is really into her, but damn it, why can’t I be that girl!
I think the reason why I am starting to feel so depressed and obsessed about this because I can’t get him out of my head. I keep thinking of our interactions yesterday. We were at a party yesterday and we talked about random things and he said things about how I don’t lead him on like my fair weather friend. I get so confused by guys in general, but this guy confuses me the most because I have a personal stake – my heart – in the matter.
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Hope things get better for you. It is never fun to be crushing on someone close in your life. I don't think there is a single guy friend of mine that I didn't crush on at some point. Some I fell harder for than others but every time it was the same "What the Hell am I Doing?!" emotion going through my brain.
ReplyDeleteWhen I lived in Florida I was able to take some control over my emotions. I learned how to spend time with guys and talk to them just like any of my girl friends. Eventually I even invited one of friends out on a sort of date. It wasn't officially a date but we were by ourselves and I paid for his ticket. It was in those moments alone with him that I started to realize there was no chemeistry between us. I had a blast with him and enjoyed being alone with him away from my friends who disliked him, but had no urge to do anything but talk and joke with him.
So I decided he was just my friend and that was the way I wanted it to stay. We had many more fun times together and there wasn't any big deal in the situation.
Maybe next time this guy is single you should invite him to go and do something. You could leading up to that invite him on group outings to do things so that he is used to going places around you. Then when you do something alone it isn't so awkward and you can see if there is anything to that spark in your heart.
It helped me, don't know if it would work for you but it is something besides beating yourself up or your feelings. I know from experience you can't help what you feel and there is no need to feel guilty over your emotions.
I would actually need to find a single guy. Out of all the guys in Davis, how come the ones that I find myself talking to are the ones with girlfriends? I am in a better place about this now, I just needed to take a break and hang out with wonderful family and awesome friends (including your video chat!)
ReplyDeleteAww I feel loved. It was great skyping with you. I feel tired a lot and it can be really hard to even do that (Has to take a 5 hour nape after out chat) but it is worth it to see you guys and feel like I am not an outsider.
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